Witness to a crime

A recent post by Steph Lasch on Facebook sparked an old memory of mine, when I had my massage business.

I was working late at my massage business on Main Street, when I noticed something, that I never wanted to see. It was a man obviously intoxicated getting into his vehicle and driving away. I immediately called the cops and luckily, the cops were able to arrest him, and he spent the night in jail. After that I felt really good about what I did and didn’t realize that the next day would be a nightmare for me.

The next day when I got to work, the owner of the bar came in right after me. He seemed pissed and wanted to talk right away. He asked me if I reported a drunk driver last night, and I told him I did. He then started threatening me and the police were asking him if he was selling alcohol to an overly intoxicated person. He then told me that he would do whatever it takes to have my business fail. He even told me that he would tell every single person in the bar, not to go get massages across the street from me. I had my business in a town of 2,000+ people, and you know how information travels in a small-town…very fast!

After that I told him, if I ever see another intoxicated person trying to get into their vehicle, that I would report them too. Afterwards, he stormed out mad, and I thought that was the last of it, but I soon found out it wasn’t the case. I had another job too and I worked in a nursing home, and a couple of the employees that worked there also lived in the small town were I had my business. They began to threaten my business again, and it made my life a living hell, because they were trying to get me fired at my nursing-home job (I found that out from some other employees).

After that, I thought this had gone too far and decided to go talk to the Mayor. The Mayor didn’t seem too concerned and told me to let him know if any other problems come up. Soon after that the bar owner came to my place of business again and told me he has most of the town against me and that I should close my business down. I then went to the Mayor again, and he told me that he would talk to the bar owner.

Soon after the incident, I got a call from a past high school classmate wanting to know if I wanted to teach massage. I was scared to death at the thought of teaching, but I also didn’t want to deal with the harassment anymore. I called the college on a Friday, had the interview on that same day and started teaching on Monday.

One of the main reasons I’m so against driving drunk, is that a drunk driver killed my sister in 1999 and she was 2 months away from graduating high school and turning 18. The killer received 3.5 years in jail and never apologized to my family (I also found out that he started drinking again, after he got out of jail). She was the baby of the family and my only sister.

If I had to report another drunk driver; I won’t even think about it and report them too!

18 thoughts on “Witness to a crime

  1. Hi Ryan,
    You don’t need me to tell you this, but you definitely did the right thing. The bar owner was using fear tactics and probably a lot of hot air. Most people know and feel that driving drunk isn’t the right thing to do.

    It’s too bad you got bullied and harassed so much, but that seems to be what happens when we stand up for something we believe in. This story is an inspiration for anyone else who may one day find themselves in a similar situation.

    Thanks for sharing.

    Warmly,
    Rajam

  2. Ryan, thanks for sharing that. We never know when we could be faced with a similar situation and similar choice to make. I admire your strength, and that you stand by what you believe in. Thanks for that, too.

  3. I am so sorry about your sister; what a nightmare. I think you handled the situation the best way possible. It’s a real shame that the bar owner felt it necessary to harass you like that.

  4. Not only did you do the right thing….I still don’t understand how some facilities get away with serving champagne or wine before and after massage treatments.

    Can’t believe the guy went back to drinking. how sad and I pray he doesn’t killl another innocent life.
    Obviously you didn’t fail either – you are AMAZING!

    Prayers for your family, always in my heart my friend.

    • Thanks! I just wish it turned out different…but everything happens for a reason and I probably would not of started teaching without the turn of events :)

      I will always report drunk drivers!

      • What a story Ryan. I’ve always had the sense that you tried to do the right thing. What I didn’t know was the you too, had suffered the consequences. It isn’t easy having integrity, following your heart and doing what’s right in a world that often does bullies those that do… unless you make a choice each and every day to do and be your best. I know you do. I try my best too. I appreciate the sacrifices that you make to be you. I’m so very sorry for your loss and I too, clearly see how one fork in the road leads to another and another and another.

  5. i report the same thing any time i see it. i’ll even report if i see someone weaving across/between lanes. my grandmother died when i was very young driving home from a christmas party, while drunk.

    Never let someone bully you out of doing the right thing. i don’t know about you, but if i didn’t report it, and something happened later, i’d feel responsible.

  6. Thank you, thank you, thank you for calling the cops on that guy!! As a bartender myself (do all MT’s have more than 1 job?!) I have to turn down people on a regular basis that have too much to drink. In my state, as a bartender, if I see someone who is too drunk to drive, I must try and stop them, or alert the police. That is my job, not only as a baretnder, but as a caring human being. Who knows how many lives you saved by calling the police. How awful would you, the bartender, or anyone else who saw that person and let them go have felt had something horrible happened. Bravo to you for standing up for morality and sanity!! I am sorry for your loss, and I commend you for trying to prevent another!

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